In response to my series on Re-Thinking Mission Work, I have heard from a number of current missionaries who felt like I was touching on their story somehow. This last week, I received an especially moving letter from a couple whose story is just so familiar that I asked them if I could reproduce it while protecting their privacy.
With their permission, I want to share this letter with you, not to condone every decision, every comment, or every emotion, but so that you can get a glimpse into the frustration that our current system creates and what it does to many of the people who try to work their way through it to the mission field. You won’t enjoy this letter, but try to put yourself in the position of this couple and see what you think!
Dear Mark,
I hope you really meant it when you wrote that you wanted to know more about our experiences, because here goes. Our first full-time missions experience was in the Czech Republic. Our sponsoring church at that time was the X Church of Christ in Texas. We had been members there for 2 years and were on a team prepared by [Missions organization]. My wife and I have teaching degrees from [Christian college]. The team we joined spent about 4 months at [missions organization] preparing together. The [sponsoring] church made a 5 year agreement with us and provided half of our support. The rest came from various other individuals and churches. We worked in the Czech Republic for 5 years and helped to establish a small congregation that still meets today without the presence of missionaries. During that time, the [sponsoring] church never once sent anyone to visit us and at the end of the 5 years they were done.
We reluctantly came home and resumed teaching . . . . We cried through every worship service for 6 months, but the Christians at the Church of Christ were really great and very understanding. We moved the next year to [city] so that I could resume my secular career and so that our children could attend a christian school.
After 2 years, we felt called to return to missions. We had become aware of the need for the gospel in Slovenia during our last year in [Czech Republic]. We spent a year preparing at [Christian college] and looking for teammates. This time, the church in [small city] made a 3 year agreement to sponsor us. They had been one of our contributors while we were in [Czech Republic]. We had become close to one of the missions committee members during that time. When we returned, he told us that when we were ready to go back (because he knew we would) to contact him and so we did. [This church] had never been a sponsoring church before, but they wanted to give it a try. They provided half our support. We never found teammates, but went to Slovenia anyway.
During our 2nd year in Slovenia, the dollar tanked against the euro and we began to struggle. We went into debt so that we could continue to do the work there. During the 3rd year, we began working with a small group of Christians from a former International Church of Christ. This was, of course, after [the decentralization took place]. They were eager to have someone to help strengthen them after all that had happened. We also meet ICOC Christians from Croatia, Hungary, and Bosnia during this time. [Our friend] was the only person from [our sponsoring church] to come and visit us during the 3 years we were there. He and his wife came for one night while they were visiting their son who was doing a study abroad program in Europe.
At the end of 3 years, there was a new missions committee head at the [Sponsoring] Church who decided it was fiscally irresponsible to continue being a sponsoring church. We were preparing to come home again when an opportunity to become self supporting missionaries came up. We took jobs with [international schools] and moved to Bosnia. We knew that there were Christians here and were eager to help them. We worked there for a year and a half and decided to return to Texas to resume our teaching careers and build up some retirement.
After 3 years back, we met a young couple looking for teammates to go to the Czech Republic. We felt like God was once again presenting us with an opportunity to serve the Czech people, so we once again began looking for a sponsoring congregation.
During the past year, we have been turned down for the following reasons:
- we are too small to take on a responsibility like that– our current congregation;
- we just had to take on more support for the missionaries we already have, and we prefer to support missions that our members can go to on mission trips;
- we feel that our congregation will get more excited about a mission to Africa;
- we feel it is more fiscally responsible to support the X Bible Institute (more bang for the buck).
It’s the last one that hurts us the most. If you look on their website, you’ll see that they have 3 missions listed: Christian Service Center- benevolence, not missions; a work in [foreign city] which we were told they are phasing out; and the X Bible Institute- preacher training, not evangelism or church planting. Not only that, but when I was there, they announced that in addition to the 4 ministers they already have, they are hiring 2 more, a communications minister and a family life minister.
I was so hurt that I wrote an email to [our contact person] and asked him to forward it to the elders but have received no reply. My family has been associated with this church for more than 30 years. They used to be known as a sending church. So, here we sit in a hotel room [in a small US city], waiting to be interviewed and try out for a preaching job.
So sorry, people of the Czech Republic. Be warmed and filled, the churches in the US would like to do more, but you are not high on their list of priorities. Can you tell that we are discouraged and frustrated? Some have said that it must not be God’s will that we go. Maybe, but what if God calls these churches into account one day for not reaching the Czech people. They may say to Him, “when did you tell us to go to the Czech people?” and He will say, “I sent you [this couple], but you ignored them.” It is our hope and prayer that someone will pay attention to you [people of Czech Republic] so that others that go after us will have more success and the gospel will reach even those places in the world that are difficult and unexciting.
I hope this letter is a small window into the experience of trying to become, to be, and to remain a missionary in our current system. MW
This letter made me cry…as My husband and I are so deeply struggling with hurt and discouragement surrounding no support from any churches nor friends or family members other then 1 friend and 1 family member from back in USA. My husband is native from India where he is evangelist and I hold degrees in Biblical studies and Christian Psychology with 20 plus years experience in counseling in USA. I felt called to leave the luxuries behind in 2014 and follow God’s Call to be a fulltime missionary in India with my husband where we do evangelism, church planting, counseling and prevention of abuse and trafficking as well as help the poor build self sustaining skills. We have had a couple of visitors from USA, and I had been asked to present our ministry to several different churches. However, including comments from family that I shouldn’t have left a good paying job in America, we receive no other consistent support and have to do all our own fundraising (other then the $ 80 a month from 2 individuals that we so appreciate). What hurts most is not only do many people I’ve known my whole life often support other missionaries that they barely know personally (including my home church I attended for 30 yrs) but also are much more willing to donate substantial sums to individuals who go on short term mission trips. There are several well meaning friends and family who often comment on our FB blog or in messages that they are praying for the needs of the ministry…but we don’t understand why they are not open to putting that into action themselves. They see the struggles via social media that we are doing as much as we can on our own to help the needs of some poor women and children in our ministry. My husband and I refuse to give up despite the circumstances and hurt and moments of losing grip on Hope. But, Our Ministry here in India is based on Hope (Hope In Christ India/The Hope Project) and we would rather please God through helping the lost people of India and take the hits of feelings of rejection and abandonment from those closest to me then to give up and abandon “The Call”. Thank you for allowing this platform to speak…and for sharing the other missionarie’s letter..I know it was from 5 years before, but I am thankful for finding this site today. Thank you
Blessings from a heavy heart, burdened self-placed Missionary in India.
This is a letter that truly touches my heart because my family is in the same situation. We will be just like this couple come next year, sitting in a hotel room waiting on replies for a preacher job…sigh
This letter makes me cry.
There is a lot that could be said here. I’ve been on both sides of this so I would like to add this. Maybe we should stop waiting so much on the Amercian church to take action and focus more on praying for God to do some amazing things where these church plants are in their foreign countries. More focus on equipping the local churches instead of Americanizing them (I’m not saying that is what is occurring here, just in general). This is just my observation after seeing certain areas fall apart when the American church couldn’t come through (for whatever reason) because we made them dependent on us in so many ways. We do have a powerful God!
It doesn’t appear like the church they orginally set up is like that. Kudos to them for being great disciple makers. Prayers to them in their situation. I am thankful for their righteous frustration.
I do know the purpose of this topic is to move the American churches into doing it better which needs to happen. Prayers that this re-thinking mission work and understanding how close it is to the heart of God will occur at a faster rate. We do need some kind of better system so we can take advantage of these opportunities when they come up.
I pray that many will learn from this. This letter could have been written by hundreds of missionaries and those who wanted to be missionaries. “Go into all the world” has little meaning to some?
The five years we were in Holland, no one from our sponsoring or supporting congregations visited us. Jimmy Lovell, Frank Pack and his wife blessed us by coming to Holland to see us. They were very special servants of God.
Their letter breaks my heart, but it does seem like the perfect illustration of the problem in missions today.