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Remember the sarcastic comments that followed the first state or two that legalized same-sex marriage?  Remember those who said, “So what’s next—polygamy? Abandonment of age requirements for consensual sex?  Why not sex with animals?”

That all seemed pretty outrageous at the time—until today! Today I was reading through Spiegel Online, the online version of a leading, serious German news magazine, and was shocked with the headline “Germany To Ban Sex With Animals.”

Here is the brief summary: “The German government plans to ban zoophilia — sex with animals — as part of an amendment to the country’s animal protection law, but faces a backlash from the country’s zoophile community, estimated to number over 100,000.”

And I had not known that zoophilia had been legal while we lived in Germany in the 1970s, but apparently it had been legalized in 1969.  The current government is trying, however, to appeal to the greater number of animal rights activists who are lobbying to protect animals from activities that are “inappropriate to their species.”

The zoophiles have organized themselves into a pressure group called ZETA (Zoophile Engagement for Tolerance and Information) and have been quoted as saying, “We see animals as partners and not as a means of gratification. We don’t force them to do anything.”

“People have tried to create the false impression that we hurt animals,” said Michael Kiok, who lives with an Alsatian dog called Cessie. He is quoted in this article as saying he had had  “special feelings for animals ever since he was four or five and that the fascination took on erotic elements in his teens.”

Here’s the link if you want to read the whole article: http://www.spiegel.de/international/zeitgeist/germany-plans-to-outlaw-sex-with-animals-a-869402.html

Lest we be outdone by the Germans: did you see the recent ABC 20/20 special on the polygamist family in Utah that just published their story in a book entitled Love Times Three? Not only are they willing to risk prosecution by “coming out” but they are also hoping with their story to change the laws in the U.S. to make polygamy legal. In fact, the family argues that they are a “typical, albeit large, modern American family.” You can read the companion article to the TV special here: http://abcnews.go.com/US/modern-polygamist-family-risking-jail/story?id=14956226#.ULQgiYdaSSp

At least we still protect our children—unless you are in Mexico where the age of consent is 12, or Japan where it is 13. Many countries and some U.S. states let 14 year-olds have consensual sex; the federal law in the U.S. sets the age at 16.

India has a big controversy going on right now with some legislators attempting to raise the age of consent from 16 to 18, a move which at least one high court termed “regressive and draconian!” http://www.indianexpress.com/news/bill-to-raise-age-for-consensual-sex-regressive-court/948994

As far as I can tell, only a few Muslim countries have made it illegal to have sex outside of marriage. I thought that was the Christian teaching! 

I suspect that we Christians are reaping the harvest from centuries of teaching against sex to the point that we have no real theology of sexuality.  Just raise the issue in your life group of what is wrong with polygamy or zoophilia. Talk about how old children should be before you should assume that they are sexually active.  Ask if being in love makes all of the above OK?

Ask if sexual activity in every form is a human right, that if denied by law, is an act of oppression.  Ask if consensuality is the only test to apply to any form of co-sexuality.

Ask your group about raising children gender neutral?  And if your group doesn’t know what that means, go get some younger people to join your group!

If you are really brave, ask your teenagers at church, or your student group at the campus ministry the same questions.

We live in a time when everyone does what is right in their own eyes, just like Israel did during the time of the judges in the Old Testament (Judges 21:25) because they had no king.

Unless we have a King, there are no definitive answers to these questions. There are only your answers—and my answers—and their answers—and someone’s answers!  That’s all—if you don’t have a King.

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The President’s choice to come out for same-sex marriage disappoints me greatly, not really because of the politics, but rather because of what it says about the moral predicament in our country.  I am strongly in favor of equal civil rights for all Americans, regardless of their immorality, unless, of course they cross the line into criminal behavior—and even then, they should have equal access to the processes of law.

The poll numbers show an American public divided almost 50-50 on the issue. What really disturbs me even more than what the president did is that polls also show that 71% of 18-29 year-olds support gay marriage. I was pretty shocked one day in the LST office to hear a wonderful Christian young woman say, “I wish God hadn’t come down so hard on homosexuality!”   I suspect what these numbers show for young Christians (who certainly have to be in the 71% mix) is their sensitivity to social justice issues in conflict with what might appear to be the more restrictive biblical imperatives.

Before I write another paragraph, let me state that God so loved the world that He gave His Son!  God’s love is all-inclusive, me with my sin and you with yours.  And the Creator God who defines the essence of reality (Truth) by His Word has set homosexuality outside of that which is pronounced “Good!”  The question is not about choice, nor about love, nor about equal rights, but rather about submission.  The question for all of us is whether we live out “not my will, but Thine be done!”

I’m also disappointed in us for making the 50 Shades of Grey trilogy the best-seller on everyone’s list. Romance novels have always sold well, so that’s nothing new, but this particular trilogy seems to be a hit because of its kinky eroticism—especially aimed toward women’s fantasies apparently. I haven’t read it, but here just before Mother’s Day to have all the best-seller lists led by what the reviewers often refer to as “mommy porn” is a sad commentary on us!

Both of these phenomena are possible partly because we Christians have separated our physical bodies—including our sexuality—from our understanding of the image of God, the incarnation (God in us), and the indwelling of God’s Spirit¸ which makes our bodies a temple!

This skewed thinking probably starts as teenagers, when we are taught which sexual activity is right and wrong, but never hear anyone say that sex is for anything other than fun! And adults/church are always trying to keep kids from fun things, so how is sex any different.

I also firmly believe that we Christians have also completely removed the “holy” from holy matrimony.  Although held in church buildings, most of our marriages are secular services, sometimes with an occasional nod toward God who is sitting in the back of the auditorium.

Three things I would like to see:

  1. I’d like for our children to be taught that their bodies are the temple of God. I think once that is our predominant message, we will learn how to help them understand the implications for their life.
  2. Secondly, I would like to see us appear before the throne of God in our wedding ceremonies and not just come to the marriage altar and sign a legal document.
  3. And, lastly, I would like to see us re-mystify our sexuality, acknowledging it as a God-breathed gift, not only for our personal benefit, but because creating and loving is a reflection of God in us!  The oneness of sex is the same mystery as the oneness of God. The joy and pleasure of that oneness should be transcendent, not sado-masochistic.

I pray for the president; I pray for us.

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Remember the sarcastic comments that followed the first state or two that legalized same-sex marriage?  Remember those who said, “So what’s next—polygamy? Abandonment of age requirements for consensual sex?  Why not sex with animals?”

That all seemed pretty outrageous at the time—until today! Today I was reading through Spiegel Online, the online version of a leading, serious German news magazine, and was shocked with the headline “Germany To Ban Sex With Animals.”

Here is the brief summary: “The German government plans to ban zoophilia — sex with animals — as part of an amendment to the country’s animal protection law, but faces a backlash from the country’s zoophile community, estimated to number over 100,000.”

And I had not known that zoophilia had been legal while we lived in Germany in the 1970s, but apparently it had been legalized in 1969.  The current government is trying, however, to appeal to the greater number of animal rights activists who are lobbying to protect animals from activities that are “inappropriate to their species.”

The zoophiles have organized themselves into a pressure group called ZETA (Zoophile Engagement for Tolerance and Information) and have been quoted as saying, “We see animals as partners and not as a means of gratification. We don’t force them to do anything.”

“People have tried to create the false impression that we hurt animals,” said Michael Kiok, who lives with an Alsatian dog called Cessie. He is quoted in this article as saying he had had  “special feelings for animals ever since he was four or five and that the fascination took on erotic elements in his teens.”

Here’s the link if you want to read the whole article: http://www.spiegel.de/international/zeitgeist/germany-plans-to-outlaw-sex-with-animals-a-869402.html

Lest we be outdone by the Germans: did you see the recent ABC 20/20 special on the polygamist family in Utah that just published their story in a book entitled Love Times Three? Not only are they willing to risk prosecution by “coming out” but they are also hoping with their story to change the laws in the U.S. to make polygamy legal. In fact, the family argues that they are a “typical, albeit large, modern American family.” You can read the companion article to the TV special here: http://abcnews.go.com/US/modern-polygamist-family-risking-jail/story?id=14956226#.ULQgiYdaSSp

At least we still protect our children—unless you are in Mexico where the age of consent is 12, or Japan where it is 13. Many countries and some U.S. states let 14 year-olds have consensual sex; the federal law in the U.S. sets the age at 16.

India has a big controversy going on right now with some legislators attempting to raise the age of consent from 16 to 18, a move which at least one high court termed “regressive and draconian!” http://www.indianexpress.com/news/bill-to-raise-age-for-consensual-sex-regressive-court/948994

As far as I can tell, only a few Muslim countries have made it illegal to have sex outside of marriage. I thought that was the Christian teaching! 

I suspect that we Christians are reaping the harvest from centuries of teaching against sex to the point that we have no real theology of sexuality.  Just raise the issue in your life group of what is wrong with polygamy or zoophilia. Talk about how old children should be before you should assume that they are sexually active.  Ask if being in love makes all of the above OK?

Ask if sexual activity in every form is a human right, that if denied by law, is an act of oppression.  Ask if consensuality is the only test to apply to any form of co-sexuality.

Ask your group about raising children gender neutral?  And if your group doesn’t know what that means, go get some younger people to join your group!

If you are really brave, ask your teenagers at church, or your student group at the campus ministry the same questions.

We live in a time when everyone does what is right in their own eyes, just like Israel did during the time of the judges in the Old Testament (Judges 21:25) because they had no king.

Unless we have a King, there are no definitive answers to these questions. There are only your answers—and my answers—and their answers—and someone’s answers!  That’s all—if you don’t have a King.

 

.

Read Full Post »

The President’s choice to come out for same-sex marriage disappoints me greatly, not really because of the politics, but rather because of what it says about the moral predicament in our country.  I am strongly in favor of equal civil rights for all Americans, regardless of their immorality, unless, of course they cross the line into criminal behavior—and even then, they should have equal access to the processes of law.

The poll numbers show an American public divided almost 50-50 on the issue. What really disturbs me even more than what the president did is that polls also show that 71% of 18-29 year-olds support gay marriage. I was pretty shocked one day in the LST office to hear a wonderful Christian young woman say, “I wish God hadn’t come down so hard on homosexuality!”   I suspect what these numbers show for young Christians (who certainly have to be in the 71% mix) is their sensitivity to social justice issues in conflict with what might appear to be the more restrictive biblical imperatives.

Before I write another paragraph, let me state that God so loved the world that He gave His Son!  God’s love is all-inclusive, me with my sin and you with yours.  And the Creator God who defines the essence of reality (Truth) by His Word has set homosexuality outside of that which is pronounced “Good!”  The question is not about choice, nor about love, nor about equal rights, but rather about submission.  The question for all of us is whether we live out “not my will, but Thine be done!”

I’m also disappointed in us for making the 50 Shades of Grey trilogy the best-seller on everyone’s list. Romance novels have always sold well, so that’s nothing new, but this particular trilogy seems to be a hit because of its kinky eroticism—especially aimed toward women’s fantasies apparently. I haven’t read it, but here just before Mother’s Day to have all the best-seller lists led by what the reviewers often refer to as “mommy porn” is a sad commentary on us!

Both of these phenomena are possible partly because we Christians have separated our physical bodies—including our sexuality—from our understanding of the image of God, the incarnation (God in us), and the indwelling of God’s Spirit¸ which makes our bodies a temple!

This skewed thinking probably starts as teenagers, when we are taught which sexual activity is right and wrong, but never hear anyone say that sex is for anything other than fun! And adults/church are always trying to keep kids from fun things, so how is sex any different.

I also firmly believe that we Christians have also completely removed the “holy” from holy matrimony.  Although held in church buildings, most of our marriages are secular services, sometimes with an occasional nod toward God who is sitting in the back of the auditorium.

Three things I would like to see:

  1. I’d like for our children to be taught that their bodies are the temple of God. I think once that is our predominant message, we will learn how to help them understand the implications for their life.
  2. Secondly, I would like to see us appear before the throne of God in our wedding ceremonies and not just come to the marriage altar and sign a legal document.
  3. And, lastly, I would like to see us re-mystify our sexuality, acknowledging it as a God-breathed gift, not only for our personal benefit, but because creating and loving is a reflection of God in us!  The oneness of sex is the same mystery as the oneness of God. The joy and pleasure of that oneness should be transcendent, not sado-masochistic.

I pray for the president; I pray for us.

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